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A mom is sparking debate online after grounding her daughter on a family vacation.
On Reddit’s “Am I the A–hole” subreddit, a mom shared details about how her 15-year-old daughter disrupted their two-week family vacation by turning everything into a competition.
“At the start of the vacation, my daughter introduced my husband to sudoku on the plane and taught him how to play. What he didn’t realize was that she had been playing sudoku for months,” she began.
“She made a bet with him that if she finished the hardest level first, he would buy her wifi for the flight. If he finished first, she would share a bed with his younger daughter during the trip (his younger daughter was complaining about sharing a bed with the oldest because she kicks and hogs the bed). She beat him and persistently pestered him until he bought the wifi,” she added.
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The mom went on to share how her daughter’s competitive behavior escalated during the vacation. For example, her daughter, who has been swimming since she was 2 years old, challenged her stepfather to races on land and in the pool every day and expected to be rewarded with items from the resort or local shops whenever she won.
“My husband was getting sick of losing, and my stepdaughters were upset that their dad was buying her stuff and not them, so I told my daughter she either couldn’t compete with her stepdad or she had to let him win,” the mother wrote.
“She decided to tell her stepdad that she wasn’t allowed to compete with him anymore because he couldn’t handle losing. This made them start to argue, so I told her that if she didn’t stop, she’d be grounded to the resort for the rest of the trip (a little over a week at this point),” the Redditor continued. “She decided to test me, so I stuck to my word, and she was left at the resort while the rest of us went out every day.”
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When the family arrived home, her daughter told her biological father that she’d been grounded. “He’s mad at me now for leaving her there and excluding her from the vacation because my husband couldn’t act like an adult,” the mom noted.
“I told him my daughter was warned to stop, but she decided to test me, and now he’s forcing her to stick to the custody schedule (technically I have her every other weekend, but he was letting her go back and forth whenever she wanted) and is threatening to go to court for child support and back pay.”
Since explaining the situation on Reddit, the mom’s post has garnered thousands of comments with people sharing insight and advice on the scenario.
“First off, regarding your husband being sick of losing. Come on, he is the adult, act like it,” one user replied to the post. “Secondly, on your stepdaughters. You could have handled this so much better. If this was unfair, why didn’t you suggest to your daughter that if she wins, your husband should get something for all the kids.”
“Why are you treating your husband like he’s one of your kids and expecting your daughter to spare his feelings by letting him win? Just tell him to stop accepting her challenges and move on,” another added.
